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I'm switching things over from my former blog.  I'm planning to import all of my old posts, follow most of the same blogs I was following, etc.  I just... well I just needed to do this. 

.....You ARE the Father

**Insert dramatic, "in yo face sucka, I told you that was yo baby" dance here**

Anyone who knows me knows that I have some very strong opinions on things regarding relationships, pregnancy, trust, et cetera.  The other night on twitter a guy posted a question, that has left me "debating" people ever since.  "If you are a woman, would you be offended if you got pregnant and the man asked for a pregnancy test?"   My answer was simple, it depends.  If you are just  having casual sex with some guy, no strings attached, no relationship then it shouldn't bother you.  But in my opinion, if we are in a committed relationship, it should.  Inside of a relationship, asking for a paternity test basically says "I think there is a chance this baby could not be mine, and therefore you must be screwing around."

So I posted the question on my Facebook status, just wondering what type of responses I would get.  I had a lot of women say just what I expected, but to my surprise several saw no problem with a guy asking this of them.  Also added it to a discussion group I'm in just to see.  Of course guys say the same thing... "you KNOW it's your baby but a guy can't be sure." And you are right, you can't be.  But to me, that request of a paternity test (assuming that you haven't been given a reason to NOT trust me) is a slap in the face and it will leave you single. Guys apparently don't get why or how a woman might be hurt or offended by this.  That's fine, because maybe the women you are with won't be like me, but as for me I will not deal with that shit.  You will get your paternity test and your pink slip.. you can get gone out of my life and we can set up a visitation schedule for the baby, or better yet, just give me half on the cost of an abortion.

A Friendly Reminder...

I've got a lot going on in my life.  Not sure that I'll talk about it here... but I do know that no matter how hard it gets, it could be worse.

Lost my Cell Phone AGAIN today...

So for the second time in a week, I lost my phone.  It wasn't REALLY lost, but it was misplaced.  Apparently I'm turning into an old senile lady because I keep putting my phone down somewhere in the house, going into another room, and within 5 minutes I've forgotten where it was.  Both times the phone was on silent.  I thought to myself "there should be an app for that."  So I got home today and finally found my phone.  I had actually given up on looking, but thanks to my handy dandy peripheral vision, I was able to see the reflection of my LED blinking.  I was excited, I had found my baby!  But this seems to be happening a lot to me lately, and I figure it probably happens to other people, so I decided to go to Google and see what was available.

I should have known there would be an app for that.  I found Where's My Phone.  There is a free and paid edition.  I downloaded it from App World and set it up immediately.  You have to set up a code word, and whenever you lose your phone you can have someone text/email you (or do it yourself).  The email has to have your codeword, a space, and START.  When the phone receives the email, an alarm sounds, even if the phone is on silent or vibrate.  There are free and paid options.  I think the paid version would be useful, but I am planning to probably switch to an Android phone in the next few months so I probably won't be getting anymore paid apps.  With the paid version you get many more customization options, including changing the alert, the number of tries require to turn off the alert (5 is default, and you have to enter the code word you chose at set up to stop the alarm), and more.  Another paid option that might come in handy if you actually lose your phone (instead of just forgetting what table you put it on like I do) is auto-deletion of all emails.

And if you have an iPhone orAndroid , there are similar apps for you.  With all of the clutter of apps out there that are useless, it's nice to have one that is practical and most likely worth the money for the paid version.

To Move or Not to Move... That is the Question.

Last year, AFTER I'd resigned a one year lease with my apartment complex, people started advertising all of these cute little affordable houses, close to vet school, with fenced yards. I was kind of upset because I would have preferred renting a house to being in an apartment anyway. Honestly part of it is because I want to have an easier life as a pet owner. Let the boys out into the yard while I'm getting ready and they'll come in when they are ready. Plus, even though you can still have loud neighbors, they aren't right on top of you- and I mean that literally. The kid above me is always making so much noise, stomping around up there like an elephant on a trampoline. I don't have to worry about whether or not vacuuming at 3am will affect anyone else, or deal with people not picking up their damn dog poop!

But then the fact remains that moving is hard and expensive. You have to get trucks, and have friends willing to help and it is really just a pain in the ass. I'd have to pay new deposits, and redecorate. And my parents will be against it. I mentioned moving before and possibly doing the roommate thing(I really wasn't serious about that, roommates are NOT for me), and they were against it. They like this apartment complex, and the manager and maintainence guys. They feel like it's a safe place, and it is, but I just feel like I want to leave. I want to be in a better place.

so I think i'm going to mention it to them again when I go home. I always consider their input but I am grown and the final decision is mine. Hopefully they will be able to convince them that it was a good idea and find a place, no more than 10 minutes from the vet school, preferably with a fenced yard, and enough space because I have lots of stuff. Hopefully I can find something with a laundry room so the boys don't have to be in their crates during the day, or I guess if it has more than one bedroom they can have the second room although I'd prefer to use that as an office.

Now I just have to decide what to do.

I'm Breaking Things and I'm Losing Things...

This song has been on my mind ALL day.  When I got home from school studying last night I put my Blackberry down somewhere and couldn't find it.  I was just about to tell my bestie in S. Korea via Facebook to call me, when I found it on the couch.  Then this morning, I woke up, checked some emails, and put my phone down.  When I went to check the time later, it was gone.  I looked and looked and never found it, and just ended up going to school.  Because it's on silent, calling didn't do much good, so most of my lunch break was spent looking.  It would have been easier to find but my bed is covered in laundry.  I'm not a neat person.    I'm not filthy but not neat.  After doing laundry the clothes generally sit in the dryer until I need it again, then get dumped on the bed until I have time to fold them.  I haven't had much time lately.  The last 2 or 3 weeks have been hectic for me.  Maybe this weekend I can start getting my life back together.  Can't wait until Thanksgiving so that I can SLOW DOWN.

The Minutes Feel Like Hours... the Hours Feel Like Days

Corinne Bailey Rae - Trouble Sleeping

This song says a LOT.