For a couple of years my sis and I had this conversation at various times. The topic? Can you have it all? Having it all meant getting your education and having a career, and having a loving relationship. It felt as if our desire for careers was making our chances of finding love decline. We'd had relationships throughout college and after, but none of them were "the one."
Now we're almost 30. She's engaged, working on another degree and her career is solid. I'm in vet school- which takes up way too much of my time, and single. Very single. And that's okay. I am my favorite person to spend time with, but I do want a husband and kids one day. One day soon.
So here's my dilemma. My schedule right now? Hectic. I had to work for the summer to pay for utilities, rent, groceries. During the school year most days you spend 6-8 days in a classroom, and ideally another 3+ hours studying after school. Weekends are generally used for errands, laundry, resting, and you got it-- more studying! So is it even possible or logical to try to work a new relationship into that? Should I just wait until I graduate from vet school (at the age of 32) to even try to find love? Some people say that you can have it all, just not at the same time, and if that's true that would mean putting off love for at least another 3 years. By the time I actually met someone, dated, fell in love, got married, I'd be at or over the high risk age for pregnancy. Right now I'm struggling over whether or not I want to specialize because that will take extra time (and money) away from my future family.
End the end, I'm probably over-thinking all of this, but anyone who knows me knows that is how I am. But who doesn't think about this things? What person doesn't consider their future and different ways it might play out? I guess I'll just wait and let the pieces come together on their own.
