Thoughts on Love: WHERE IS IT????

In my last post, Thoughts On Love: Can you have it all?, I talked about love and whether or not I could have it all.  I have had people tell me than you can have it all, which brought up more thoughts, mainly WHERE is the love?

No. Seriously.  My bestie had to go all the way to South Korea to find love.  With less than 100 days until my 30th birthday this question plagues me daily.  WHERE is it? I mean what do I do? Do I let love find me? Do I look for it? And either way, where do I need to be? Sure some people will say "just pray about it and God will send him to you" but Billie Holiday said "God bless the child that's got his own" and I believe even when you pray for something just sitting around waiting on it won't bring it to you.  Maybe you should help him help you.

As a second year veterinary student, I spend 4-7 hours a day in a classroom.  After school? I nap and study.  I work 12 hour shifts on weekends.  So when I do have free time, I find myself trying to relax (or catch up on errands and house work).  I've never really been big on clubbing/bar hopping, and let's face it, that's not really where anyone wants to find their mate, right? I can tell you first hand that even though it seems like a good idea, finding a man at church can lead you to a headache (or a stalker. Don't ask.)  Some people have found love online but how do you know if it's for you? How do you weed out the creeps, the guys only looking for sex, and the guys could be a suspect on the next episode of SVU? How do you make sure you don't end up asking Nev and Max to prove to you that your online boo isn't a Catfish? (ok the last one is rhetorical.  The average person isn't dumb enough to become a victim like that).

I was told I could have it all, but honestly, I'm not sure how, especially with my current schedule.  I feel like I won't ever be in the right place at the right time to meet the right guy, and that makes me wonder if I should just place thoughts of love on a back burner until I'm done with school.  But that won't work either because by then I'll be 32 and I'd like to at least have some prospects y then.  So where do you find love?

Thoughts on Love: Can You Have it All?

For a couple of years my sis and I had this conversation at various times. The topic? Can you have it all? Having it all meant getting your education and having a career, and having a loving relationship.  It felt as if our desire for careers was making our chances of finding love decline.  We'd had relationships throughout college and after, but none of them were "the one."

Now we're almost 30. She's engaged, working on another degree and her career is solid.  I'm in vet school- which takes up way too much of my time, and single. Very single.  And that's okay.  I am my favorite person to spend time with, but I do want a husband and kids one day.  One day soon.

So here's my dilemma.  My schedule right now? Hectic.  I had to work for the summer to pay for utilities, rent, groceries.  During the school year most days you spend 6-8 days in a classroom, and ideally another 3+ hours studying after school.  Weekends are generally used for errands, laundry, resting, and you got it-- more studying!  So is it even possible or logical to try to work a new relationship into that? Should I just wait until I graduate from vet school (at the age of 32) to even try to find love?  Some people say that you can have it all, just not at the same time, and if that's true that would mean putting off love for at least another 3 years.  By the time I actually met someone, dated, fell in love, got married, I'd be at or over the high risk age for pregnancy.  Right now I'm struggling over whether or not I want to specialize because that will take extra time (and money) away from my future family.

End the end, I'm probably over-thinking all of this, but anyone who knows me knows that is how I am.  But who doesn't think about this things? What person doesn't consider their future and different ways it might play out?  I guess I'll just wait and let the pieces come together on their own.