For a couple of years my sis and I had this conversation at various times. The topic? Can you have it all? Having it all meant getting your education and having a career, and having a loving relationship. It felt as if our desire for careers was making our chances of finding love decline. We'd had relationships throughout college and after, but none of them were "the one."
Now we're almost 30. She's engaged, working on another degree and her career is solid. I'm in vet school- which takes up way too much of my time, and single. Very single. And that's okay. I am my favorite person to spend time with, but I do want a husband and kids one day. One day soon.
So here's my dilemma. My schedule right now? Hectic. I had to work for the summer to pay for utilities, rent, groceries. During the school year most days you spend 6-8 days in a classroom, and ideally another 3+ hours studying after school. Weekends are generally used for errands, laundry, resting, and you got it-- more studying! So is it even possible or logical to try to work a new relationship into that? Should I just wait until I graduate from vet school (at the age of 32) to even try to find love? Some people say that you can have it all, just not at the same time, and if that's true that would mean putting off love for at least another 3 years. By the time I actually met someone, dated, fell in love, got married, I'd be at or over the high risk age for pregnancy. Right now I'm struggling over whether or not I want to specialize because that will take extra time (and money) away from my future family.
End the end, I'm probably over-thinking all of this, but anyone who knows me knows that is how I am. But who doesn't think about this things? What person doesn't consider their future and different ways it might play out? I guess I'll just wait and let the pieces come together on their own.
I believe things will fall into place as they should. Congrats on Vet School. I haven't read one of your blogs in a while. Just as Vet School fell into place as it should. If someone comes along while you're in school he'll stick around, he'll be understanding of your schedule. And we make time, find time, create time for what we really want. So eventhough vet school does consume a lot of time it doesn't make love impossible. So yes it is possible to have it all.
ReplyDeleteThanks! I hope you're right about things falling into place. I'm sure it will but I do tend to over-think most aspects of my life.
DeleteI know I'm sometimes overly optimistic, BUT I do believe you can have it all. We hear all the time how we are supposedly sacrificing family and love for these ambitious careers we're after; I still truly believe everything will fall into place at the right time. I'm nearing 25, and almost everyone I grew up with is married/married with kids/have kids.... While that's great, it's not my path and isn't the way it's panning out for me. The guy for you is out there and will embrace and love all of you, including your busy schedule and ambitious goals. My Nanny tells me all the time to enjoy my singleness and the season I'm in as it's serving as preparation for the next! Said all that to say, yes it's possible and we'll have it :)
ReplyDeleteI wish I was nearing 25. lol Hopefully you're right. I still feel like maybe it's one or the other but I guess we'll see.
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