Saturday, September 14, 2013

Thoughts on Love: WHERE IS IT????

In my last post, Thoughts On Love: Can you have it all?, I talked about love and whether or not I could have it all.  I have had people tell me than you can have it all, which brought up more thoughts, mainly WHERE is the love?

No. Seriously.  My bestie had to go all the way to South Korea to find love.  With less than 100 days until my 30th birthday this question plagues me daily.  WHERE is it? I mean what do I do? Do I let love find me? Do I look for it? And either way, where do I need to be? Sure some people will say "just pray about it and God will send him to you" but Billie Holiday said "God bless the child that's got his own" and I believe even when you pray for something just sitting around waiting on it won't bring it to you.  Maybe you should help him help you.

As a second year veterinary student, I spend 4-7 hours a day in a classroom.  After school? I nap and study.  I work 12 hour shifts on weekends.  So when I do have free time, I find myself trying to relax (or catch up on errands and house work).  I've never really been big on clubbing/bar hopping, and let's face it, that's not really where anyone wants to find their mate, right? I can tell you first hand that even though it seems like a good idea, finding a man at church can lead you to a headache (or a stalker. Don't ask.)  Some people have found love online but how do you know if it's for you? How do you weed out the creeps, the guys only looking for sex, and the guys could be a suspect on the next episode of SVU? How do you make sure you don't end up asking Nev and Max to prove to you that your online boo isn't a Catfish? (ok the last one is rhetorical.  The average person isn't dumb enough to become a victim like that).

I was told I could have it all, but honestly, I'm not sure how, especially with my current schedule.  I feel like I won't ever be in the right place at the right time to meet the right guy, and that makes me wonder if I should just place thoughts of love on a back burner until I'm done with school.  But that won't work either because by then I'll be 32 and I'd like to at least have some prospects y then.  So where do you find love?


5 comments:

  1. Does it have to happen within a particular time frame? If it happens now or a few years from now just as long as it happens right? If you keep acting like 30 is old I'm going to spank you!

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    1. Hmph. It's not that 30 is OLD exactly but the scientist in me wants to have kids by a certain age. Because I know it will be difficult and more risky after 35. Plus I can't help if my biological clock is tick tocking B.

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  2. Yeah. What B. said.
    Relax.
    Have some fun! #andaseat
    God *will* answer this prayer too! #inHistimenotyourN #askmehowEYEknow
    #lovefromLovA

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    1. Hmph. Okay okay. I'll try to relax. But I know I will continue to over think this. Especially as everyone around me continues to get engaged, and married and have kids and such.

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  3. What they both said. I was in the and predicament. I didn't think I would meet anyone working 10 hour night shifts. My experience is I prayed and waited. A man that finds a wife, finds a good thing. Now the question arises are you preparing yourself to be that good thing. Don't rush what God has prepared for you young grasshopper.

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